People believe their relationship is perfect, but Couples therapist Ruchi Ruuh dishes out the signs your relationship is on the brink of disaster.
If you see red flags in your relationship, it's time to address them. Don't ignore your feelings, stop making excuses and take action. You deserve to be happy. If you're feeling stuck in a relationship that's not working for your needs and desires, seek help. There's no shame in asking for help! And don't forget - relationships change over time, but when they're right, they last forever.
🚩1. Frequent Lying
If you’re noticing that your partner is being deceptive, keeping secrets, and often lies, it might be time to rethink the relationship.
Sometimes, these red flags are small and easy to overlook, but other times they can be big enough to break up a long-term relationship too.
🚩2. Constant put-downs
A partner frequently criticizing you or putting you down, even if it's in a subtle or passive-aggressive way, can affect your self-esteem.
If you're being put down, it's important to talk about it and decide together if it's worth continuing. If your partner continues to do this, you might want to consider whether this is a safe place for you.
🚩3. An unwillingness to compromise
Everyday life can bring disagreements and conflicts. That's okay! Compromise is essential in a relationship but it should not be an all-one-way street.
If your partner is ALWAYS right, prepare to do a lot of compromising.
🚩4. A tendency to run away from difficult discussions
In a relationship that's based on trust and mutual respect, both partners have to deal with difficult emotions. Emotional Intelligence is the ability to be aware of your feelings, understand them, and use them as tools to make wise decisions.
If your partner has a tendency to flee when things get rough, this could lead to problems in the relationship.
🚩5. Controlling behaviour and excessive jealousy
Jealousy in a relationship can cause your partner to try to control what you do, leaving you feeling as though nothing you do is "good enough" for them. The meaning of jealousy varies from person to person, but it can make the people involved miserable and lead to controlling behavior.
It's a red flag when even after constant reassurance they doubt your intentions and control you.
🚩6. A lack of healthy open communication
Communication is a foundation of a relationship, so if you both can't communicate openly and healthily, you're going to run into problems. A healthy relationship provides a safe place for both partners to speak openly about their emotions without fear of judgment or criticism.
A partner who turns to passive-aggressiveness, blaming, or expressing emotions in an aggressive way is exhibiting ineffective communication.
It's hard to communicate with a partner when one or both of you don't feel like you are being heard, understood, or appreciated.
Final Thoughts: A red flag 🚩 is something that signals that your partner is not happy or comfortable with where things are headed. Before you can know how to handle the situation, it's important to take a step back and reflect on what you observed.
If you've noticed red flags early in your relationship, take note — and act accordingly.
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