Break-up are hard.
Break-ups are hard because not only do they leave you confused, angry and hurt but because we lose a partner and a part of ourselves. We feel robbed of a future that we imagined with them.
The most important loss is of self. The person we were before we met them and the person we were while we were with the partner.
Moving on is the hardest part as one can experience whole range of complicated emotions, obsessive behaviour and thoughts. We constantly seek answers and closure. This whole exercise affects our work, relationships and squander self- esteem and self-image.
Instant satisfaction and distraction to num our feelings for a short period of time but don’t resolve the emptiness and hurt we experience.
We resort to numbing our emotions through substance abuse, rebound relationships, casual sex, binge eating or shopping and in many cases over working which tends to provide engagement for short period of time.
It's unrealistic expectation that a relationship that took several months or years to build will be forgotten in such a short period of time.
Emotions will be triggered with associated objects, people and places, it's only natural for feel sadness, anger or regret in the end.
Emotional numbness is not healing, getting rid of those triggers and pretending that the emotions Don't exist will only delay the process of healing.
The only way is through, not around.
Therapy and break-up!❤️
Therapy helps with sense making. After a break up we are stuck with questions like, 'why did this happen to me?' 'Whats wrong with me?' 'Wasnt their love genuine?' Integrating the Psychological knowledge and the lesson from this experience helps the client get the holistic picture of what happened.
Psychoeducation is an important part of moving on process as it empowers the client with knowledge about their own patterns and behaviour. Acceptance of their own behaviours and others patterns eases the pain and helps move forward.
An important work that happens in the break-up therapy is rebuilding of Self. It's hard to get used to space left by the significant other. Sometimes daily activities become a challenge as you get lost and lonely. The healing process helps one with filling this new formed space with self. Self-image and self-esteem are two important things that are built.
After acceptance, resolving, rebuilding this theraputic relationship with the counselor helps individuals look at the world again with confidence and trust.
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